I always take negative, generalized posts about women very personal. I would REALLY appreciate if some men (notice I said some…implying that not all men have this problem) would think twice about some things before they decide to share it with the rest of the world. Like most stereotypes, the female slander does apply to some women but by no means describes the masses. I don’t fit into any of these invisible boxes that some of you try to squeeze women into and neither do most of the women I know.
For example: We have no problem buying our own drinks when we go out and politely turning down drinks from men we have no interest in. We finished school, work and take care of ourselves and don’t seek out men in hopes that they will pay our bills (not saying it wouldn’t be nice to have someone to take care of things, just saying that it’s not required nor sought out). We’re generous, loving and take great pride in taking care of the men in our lives. We’re not disrespectful and quick to call men out of their name, say hurtful things, hit below the belt in an argument or make scenes in public and we don’t have nasty attitudes. Some of these things come naturally while others came with time and are a direct result of maturity. These characteristics and accomplishments are not always appreciated, reciprocated, or acknowledged but nonetheless it’s all part of what makes us who we are.
If someone I’m interested in shows himself to be unappreciative or undeserving, I walk away from the situation. Simple. Turning into a bitter, man-bashing woman and changing who I am as a direct result of someone else’s shortcomings or apparent disinterest in me is simply not an option. You have to be adult enough to recognize when someone doesn’t want to be or simply isn’t what you want them to be. That’s the way it goes sometimes. Bad experiences don’t change my outlook on men in general nor do they affect the way I approach dating. Simply put: I’m not really a fan of baggage.
Also, despite what some people have been spewing about chivalry being dead, IT’S NOT! I repeat: CHIVALRY IS NOT DEAD! In my oh so humble opinion, chivalry should be part of a man’s character, not something he picks and chooses to exercise based how he feels about a particular woman. With that said, not every woman deserves or appreciates a good man just as not every man deserves or appreciates a good woman. But if you feel as though a particular woman is not worth your noble actions or gentlemanly ways, the best solution is to cut her out of your life. She obviously doesn’t really want to be there. Exhibiting poor character and/or taking to Facebook and writing status updates that make it seem as though the world is full of worthless women is unproductive and annoying. Just move on. Obviously she wasn’t the one for you…what’s all the fuss for?
I’m sure we’ve all heard some version of the scripture/saying “to whom much is given, much is required” and in my eyes it applies at the secular level…more specifically it applies to dating. If you want a woman that gives you everything you need and truly loves, appreciates, and respects you, are you willing and able to be the man a woman like that needs and deserves? If not, all complaints are null and void and should be directed at the nearest trashcan, not your Facebook audience. Not everyone you come across is meant to be in your life long term. Period. And a woman might be a horrible fit for you but a perfect fit for someone else and the same applies to men. One woman could feel like a particular ex was the worst human being ever, but his next girlfriend may think he’s God’s gift to her. Again, sometimes that’s just the way it is. But don’t blame all of womankind because your dating life isn’t what you think it should be.
Maybe you need to work on yourself or try a new approach when seeking out women to date. The bottom line is that PEOPLE in general can be whack and have trash for morals…gender having nothing to do with it. So the next time a woman pisses you off for whatever reason and you feel the need to tell Facebook how salty you are about it through a poorly thought out post talking about ”Women are this, girls are that, bit@hes always wanna” please SPARE ME!!! And to all the men out there reading this that aren’t guilty of bashing womankind, THANK YOU and XOXO!!!
